I Keep Saying This . . .

This morning on the Today show there was a feature on the move toward "urban food gardens" (their term). They tied the movement directly to increasing food prices -- more and more people are doing small backgard, patio, or container gardens as well as larger plots. A Home Depot garden center spokesman said that more and more people are buying vegetable and fruit transplants instead of ornamental plants. They made reference to the Victory Garden movement popular during World Wars I and II when backyard gardens took pressure off the national food supply during those wars.

I may be wrong, but I don't see price-pressures on food changing much in the future. If you're resisting beginning to grow your own food because you think this is a short-lived necessity, I would think again.

Body Mass Index

I put together some info on Body Mass Index recently for a friend -- I'll recap the highlights here. The Body Mass Index formula was complicated when it first appeared a few years ago and has been simplified into various formulas that all produce similar results. The formula I've reproduced below is from the Wikipedia article on Body Mass Index.

BMI scores are reported as a number from around 15 to 40. Here is what the numbers mean:

<16.5 = Severely underweight
16.5 - 18.5 = Underweight
18.5 - 25 = NORMAL
25 - 30 = Overweight
30 - 35 = Obese
35 - 40 = Clinically Obese
40> = Morbidly Obese

You derive the score by using this formula:

BMI = (weight x 703) ÷ (height-in-inches squared)

For example, for a person who is 6' (or 72") tall and 200 pounds we get:

(200 x 703) ÷ (72 x 72)

140,600 ÷ 5,184

= 27.12

Based on the chart above, 27.12 indicates an "Overweight" score, or BMI.

Most BMI recommendations say that "24" should be everyone's target score.

SO -- if 24 is the target BMI score, what does that translate to in weight? We use the same formula and solve it a different way using W = weight as the unknown variable:

24 = (W x 703) ÷ (72 x 72)

24 = 703W ÷ 5,184

24 x 5,184 = 703W

124,416 = 703W

124,416 ÷ 703 = W

176.97 = W (or 177 pounds, rounded up)

SO, to achieve a BMI of 24 a six-foot tall person should weigh 177 pounds (or less: remember, the "Normal" BMI range is 18.5 - 25)

NOW -- here's what this means in terms of health:

1. Diseases like cancer grow in an acidic environment.
2. Cancer is suppressed (won't grow) in an alkaline environment.
3. It is "impossible" to be overweight and have an alkaline environment. The foods that create obesity in the Standard American Diet (meat, fats, sugar, processed grains, processed foods, junk foods) are all HIGHLY acidic.
4. A plant-based diet (fruits and veggies, etc.) is almost totally alkaline. (The body's ideal pH is to be slightly alkaline.)

Therefore, when you find a person who is obese and has cancer, you can pretty much assume their inner system is highly acidic. The diet (and lack of exercise, etc.) that made them obese will also make them acidic, creating an ideal environment for cancer to grow.

On the other hand, a plant-based diet will eventually lead one to a normal weight while creating an alkaline environment at the same time, INHIBITING cancer growth.

SO, not only do you return to a normal weight on a plant-based diet (and also reduce your risk of diabetes, heart disease, stroke, etc.) you also create an inner system (alkaline) that inhibits cancer growth.

By consuming a plant-based diet faithfully, two things will happen:

1. You should return to a normal, healthy weight.
2. You will create an inner terrain in which cancer will have a very difficult time surviving.

Full disclosure: the BMI has been criticized in some quarters for being too conservative when "24" is made the target score. Critics say it doesn't take into account different muscular builds (healthy, but heavier due to muscle bulk) and different body shapes ("big-boned," etc.).

Truth be told, most people who react negatively to the weight at which they reach a BMI of 24 (or less) -- "I look skinny! No, gaunt!" -- are reacting to how they look compared to how they used to look (overweight) and how the rest of the population looks: 60+% overweight and 30+% obese. Twenty-four is, for most people, a healthy target.

Wheatgrass Revival

For a reason I can't now remember, I stopped growing new wheatgrass a month or so ago. When I started a new batch last week I decided to use the "industry standard" growing trays instead of the cafeteria trays that my wheatgrass mentor showed me how to use. The result is, for whatever reason, some of the best wheatgrass I've grown. (I continue to water my grass with Ocean Grown Solution.) And best of all, there are no signs of mold around the roots -- a standard headache for wheatgrass growers. Not sure what the difference is. These are two I'm aware of: deeper soil beds since these trays are deeper than cafeteria trays, and watering from the top down instead of the bottom up. If a wheatgrass expert stumbles on this post and can comment, I'd appreciate the input.

Besides being healthful, wheatgrass has to be one of the most beautiful in-house "plants" to look at:





Here's a picture of the root area just after cutting this morning showing no signs of mold:



I put the bird/squirrel seeds in a tray hoping to keep the wind from spreading them into the garden beds. So far I haven't seen a single bird at the tray -- the new color/shape may be making them wary. The squirrels, of course, could care less about the container:



Finally, the glorious sunflower had his face turned full toward the sun this morning. I now count nine buds on this one plant. It's amazing how the botanical parts of God's creation turn to the sun every morning to soak in the life-giving energy:

Get the Garlic and Lime

I have buried scores of avocado pits (seeds) in the soil in my front garden beds in recent years. Since they break down much more slowly than veggie and fruit scraps, I am continually unearthing them as I bury new scraps. Of late, I have found several pits that have split and sprouted. Knowing that avocados are not native to North Carolina and might not survive, I've been trying to baby these along the last few days to see what happens.

This one is a bit out of focus -- it's the brown vertical stem with the green at the top:



This one is a bit fuzzy also -- the stem has already sent out a shoot off to the side:



This one is a bit harder to see -- look for the green stem leaning to the left. To the right you can actually see the pit that has cracked open allowing the root and stem to emerge. I didn't even notice the seed was lying above ground until I saw these pictures. I'll cover it up tomorrow:



I'm not rushing out to buy chips just yet.

Relax and Smell Healthy

The current issue of Bicycling magazine (July 2008, p. 76) notes that "British researchers found that smelling lemon oil reduced anxiety in dementia patients by 35 percent." A New York University study showed that surgery patients whose oxygen masks were treated with lavender oil required less post-op pain medication than patients who didn't inhale the lavender.

You can get all-natural soaps with lemon, lavender, and other oils made by Frederick Breeden at JustSoap.com. He even mixes his soap concoctions with a bicycle-powered mixing machine! The soaps are made with all-natural oils with no artificial coloring or chemicals, and are animal-free (ingredients and testing). And they are reasonably priced.

If you want the oils themselves, I have ordered from Candace Newman ("The Oil Lady"). She's been selling all-natural aromatherapy oil products, gathered from all over the world, more than 15 years. The "Deep Rub Gel" I used when I had tendonitis in my foot really seemed to help.

Two Cannibals Are Eating a Comedian . . .

Two cannibals are eating a comedian and one says to the other, "Does this taste funny to you?"

(Thanks to Dustin Hoffman on the Today show this morning.)

Ready for Rain

Got the rain barrel rigged this afternoon with some flexible downspout extensions and concrete blocks from Home Depot. Hopefully, the blocks will raise it up enough to provide adequate gravity flow through the hose for watering the garden. The only thing I didn't do was drill an overflow hole near the top. The lid on the barrel fits loosely enough that, for the moment, overflow can just run out underneath the lid and down the sides of the barrel. We'll see what happens. Next will be to install another barrel next to it with a small hose connecting the two so as to capture 100+ gallons instead of 50+.



Here's a view of the front of the house with the barrel on the left end of the porch. Doesn't appear to be too obtrusive:



I stopped filling the bird feeders because of the "weed" problem they were causing in the flower garden below. The birds spill over so many of the "junk" seeds that commercial bird feed has in it that they all sprout in the soil below the feeders which creates a huge job keeping the "weeds" (don't know what they are) pulled. However, a couple of sunflower seeds sprouted so I have left those:



Most sunflowers I have seen before have one large flower at the top of the thick trunk. This one has eight flower pods getting ready to bloom. Is this normal? When I had sunflowers as part of my backyard garden, it was fun to watch small birds fly up and grasp the rough face of a sunflower with their feet and start digging sunflower seeds out of the face with their bills while the sunflower head swung to and fro with the weight of their activity. I have no idea what variety of sunflower was in the bird feeder, but this is going to be a pretty cool sunflower when all eight heads are blooming:



Instead of putting seeds in the bird feeders I sprinkled a pile on the sidewalk. No surprise as to who was Johnny-on-the-spot:



The finches wait patiently for their turn until Squire Squirrel has his fill:



When the Guard Lizard gives the birds the "All clear" from his position on the downspout . . .



. . . they come down to get their share:



The simple pleasures of living on .27 acres in lovely Union County, North Carolina.

The Humble Spud

Read Dr. John McDougall's tribute to the humble potato and you'll be inclined to eat more of them. If you'd rather watch than read, here's an excellent short video on the lowly tuber (2008 is the United Nations International Year of the Potato):

Healing Cancer

I learned recently that a good friend of mine from high school has a VERY rare and aggressive cancer. We connected after 42 years and have been talking about some things he can do on the nutritional side to combat the negative effects of chemo, build up his immune system, etc.

I watched a new two-hour DVD last night, Healing Cancer from Inside Out -- a documentary-style history of the war against cancer in America. For all the billions of dollars that have been spent, almost no progress has been made over the last 50 years in terms of absolute rates of healing as a result of conventional cut/poison/burn (surgery/chemo/radiation) protocols. (There are a couple of very minor exceptions.) If that sounds surprising (it surprised me) it's because of the way the cancer/drug/AMA industry reports statistics, etc. It is a shocking exposé with meticulous, documented research and interviews with major figures in the alternative/nutritional cancer/research community like Dr. Colin Campbell (author of The China Study), Charlotte Gerson (daughter of Dr. Max Gerson and founder of The Gerson Clinic), Dr. John McDougall, and many others.

If anyone you know is facing decisions about cancer, they should watch this DVD before making any decisions about treatment.

Here are a few bullet points I remember:

1. People with cancer who choose to do nothing about it live longer than those who undergo chemotherapy.
2. The rate of healing/life extension for those who receive chemo is less than those who receive a placebo.
3. There is a difference between absolute and relative rates of healing. All cancer healing statistics are based on relative rates instead of true absolute rates, which give a vastly inflated picture of success.
4. Everyone's body is full of cancer cells throughout life.
5. When cancer is discovered it is only the tip of the iceberg; the cancer has been present for years prior. Therefore, no "immediate" decision is necessary. There is time to evaluate options in spite of what doctors tell scared patients.
6. Radiation and chemotherapy do far more harm than good.
7. Any person who lives five years after the discovery of cancer is considered "cured," even if they die in the sixth year. ("Five years" is an official medical term for a cancer cure.)
8. When chemo/radiation/surgery remove a visible cancer, the body is still full of innumerable cancer cells. The body's immune system is the only systemic way to destroy existing cancer cells.
9. Animal protein (especially casein—milk protein) is the number one trigger for activating cancer.
10. Plant-based nutrition is the best defense against cancer; i.e., it is what keeps the body's immune system in the best shape to kill cancer cells that are created daily in the body.
11. External factors (smoking, toxicity, etc.) have less to do with cancer than diet. For example, some Asian cultures whose people smoke heavily but eat a plant-based diet have far fewer incidences of lung cancer than smoking cultures where animal-flesh intake is high.

This video is available from Hallelujah Acres, Amazon, The Gerson Clinic, and from RaveDiet.com.

A Bit Overboard

The guys (minus Dave who is out of town) came over for supper and our bimonthly meeting tonight. On the menu was fresh veggie juice, followed by a big salad, then supper of baked potato (w/ fixins'), grilled squash and eggplant, corn on the cob, tomato and avocado slices, and "braised" asparagus, with watermelon for dessert. I fixed way too much food for three people -- still learning. A good time was had by all. We missed 'ya, Dave!

The Annual Setting of the Cages

Put the tomato cages out in the front garden this past weekend and the birds immediately found them. I took tons of pictures last summer of birds perched on the cages -- they just seem to like it, as do I.

The ubiquitous finches (I originally said "wren") were the first on deck: (5-28-08 update: My birdwatching son, Daniel, told me this is not a wren but more likely a finch. Not being very knowledgeable, I tend to call anything that is little and that looks like a "sparrow" a wren -- probably meaning finch as in "house finch." Checking my Field Guide (which Daniel gave me and which I should have checked) I can see he is right. Definitely a finch-family cage-sitter, not a wren-family. Always happy to get the facts straight -- thanks to all who keep me honest.)

Reading List, Part 2

As a follow-up to the short-stack of books I pictured below that happened to be sitting on my desk (it wasn't a posed picture) when I had my camera handy, I invite you to view the video linked below. It will only take about two minutes, and it will be worth the investment of your time -- about the importance of reading and exploring via books (and other media).

The video is by an Internet marketing guy named Eban Pagan (interesting last name -- though the root 'bn [Eban] in Hebrew means "servant" or "slave. So we have a "servant of pagans" or "slave of pagans"? But I digress --). He's one of a number of people who are making gobs of money by selling information over the Internet -- all of whom are smart, creative, and "give away" lots of information (like these free video segments) as a means of attracting more clients and customers.

Okay -- in this video segment, the guy takes you through a short tour of part of his office, which is a condo unit in the same condo complex he lives in. What I admire is how much the guy has studied as evidenced by his library. I think that's an admirable quality. Proverbs 2:1-8 pictures the search for wisdom and knowledge as being akin to hunting for treasure -- i.e., an energy-consuming task. It also says that "the fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge" (1:7). A lot of people in life search for knowledge apart from the fear of the Lord, but that's a different issue. The issue I'm focused on here is the admirable trait of learning through self-study -- regardless of the field of endeavor.

Here's the video.

(The search for knowledge and wisdom is tricky, as explained by Paul in 1 Corinthians 1:18-2:16. But again, my point here is that, even when seeking wisdom from God, it requires "treasure hunting" on our part. If you watch any more of the video past the first couple of minutes you'll find the information to be totally humanistic -- but don't miss the message by shooting the messenger [or the blogger]. Lots of what he says is consistent with, while not based on, biblical truth.)

Reading List

This stack of books has been growing on my desk for the last couple of months -- all remaining to be read. It's called BAS (Book Acquisition Syndrome) -- Kruideniers tend to be certified carriers. (A good many of these were bought used, thus a few look a little rough.)

Oprah's Cleansing Diet

Oprah Winfrey has started a 21-day cleansing diet and said the first day "wasn't hard at all." I can see why. Here's what she had to eat on the first day of her cleansing diet, in her words (formatted by me to make it easier to read):

•Breakfast: steel-cut oatmeal with fresh blueberries, strawberries, chopped walnuts and a splash of soy milk and some agave nectar.

•Lunch: chunky mushroom soup with wild rice and pecans.

•Snack: a handful of roasted almonds.

•Dinner: a baked potato drizzled with olive oil, salt and pepper with a salad of shredded lettuce, cranberries, pine nuts and tiny orange slices with a vinegar and oil dressing.

Are you seeing what I'm seeing? Oprah's 21-day cleansing diet looks like a vegan's 365-day regular diet. Hello?! How much better would she (everyone) be in terms of inner cleanliness if she/they ate that kind of diet all the time?

Come on Down, Raymond!

When I worked summer construction jobs in high school and college, the guys on the crew (if we were outdoors) would yell, "Come on down, Raymond!" whenever it looked like it might rain. (Raymond = Rain, but don't ask me why.) If it started raining it meant we'd have to stop work and could go home.

I'm a little closer to wanting to yell, "Come on down, Raymond!" now that I've made some progress on my rain barrel. I cut the top off with my electric jigsaw this afternoon in order to gain access to the interior of the barrel to install the bulkhead fitting anchor that holds the spigot on the outside of the barrel. I would have preferred to leave the top on and channel water from the downspout into one of the two bung holes in the top of the barrel, but there was no way to install the bulkhead fitting with the top in place.

But once I got the top off I discovered that a plastic lid from one of my 32-gallon utility trash cans (that I store potting soil in) fits the top of the barrel perfectly. That's great since it will keep out debris and prevent mosquitoes from gaining access to the water to lay eggs. I'll have to cut a hole in the rubber trash can lid for the downspout to fit in



Here's a close up of the spigot. I ran enough city water into the barrel to test the spigot and it works great. I'll be able to attach a hose to the spigot for watering in the front garden.



I surveyed the roof lines to see where I might collect the greatest volume of water and it appears that the far end of my front porch is the best place. There's a downspout there that collects water from two different levels of the roof. Since the barrel is white, and there are a lot of bushes around that corner, it will be mostly hidden from site. The extra height of the porch will give the gravity flow a bit of extra power as well, though I'll probably set it on one layer of concrete blocks to create even more pressure.

More pix when I get the downspout rigged up.

Bummer. I went back out after the water had dried around the base of the barrel to see if there were any leaks -- and the bulkhead fitting is leaking. I drilled the hole for it the size the guy at Renfrows told me to, but after I drilled the hole the bulkhead fitting seem to have PLENTY of room, as in maybe the hole is too big. The bulkhead fitting has soft rubber washers on both sides that I hoped would fill in the extra space in the hole, but there's obviously still a leak. I'll try tightening the bulkhead fitting more (I didn't lean on it for fear of stripping the plastic threads) and see if that helps. If it doesn't, the drip is very small and won't be a great loss.

Third Person in History to Walk on Water

You've likely seen this before, as have I, but when it appeared again today in my email I couldn't resist sharing it.

Three people in recorded history have walked on water: Jesus Christ, the apostle Peter, and a dude named José.



Now that you enjoyed a laugh, I have to say that this photo looks "photoshop'd" to me (digitally created). Compare the amount of water spraying up around the guy's feet with the fact that only the toes on his right foot have touched the water. No way that much water would be spraying up around him. Perhaps another person had already gone into the water ahead of him. The bystanders are obviously looking at something. But there's something more going on here than just old José running for his life. Whaddya think?

Ride of Silence II

THURSDAY UPDATE: I CHECKED THE NEWS 14 WEB SITE AND WATCHED THEIR COVERAGE OF THE RIDE (SEE IT HERE) AND THEY SAID THERE WERE 100 RIDERS AS OPPOSED TO MY ESTIMATE OF 150. I STILL THINK THERE WERE WAY MORE THAN 100, BUT THE TV GUY SAID 100 SO IT MUST BE TRUE, RIGHT? :-)

I attended the "Ride of Silence" tonight in Myers Park in Charlotte. It was held to honor those who have been killed around the world while riding bikes on public roadways.

This year the Ride of Silence is being observed at 7:00 p.m. in 200 cities around the world -- 7:00 p.m. in each time zone. So it is a movement that rolls around the globe for a 24-hour period -- pretty cool. Even some of the researchers in outposts in Antarctica participate by riding their stationary exercise bikes. (Is there a time zone in Antarctica? Not sure when it is 7:00 p.m. there.)

The ride in Charlotte covered the three-mile "Booty Run" in Myers Park (infamously named because so many of the Queens University co-eds use the loop as a safe jogging route as it runs through Charlotte's oldest and wealthiest part of town) -- three laps totaling nine miles, ridden in complete silence save for the clicking of gears. Pretty moving. I rode near the back hoping to get some pictures of the group stretched out ahead but there was never really a good opportunity. I didn't think it would be too cool to cause a crash while fiddling with my camera, so I let it go.

By my rough estimate I would say there were at least 150 riders if not more, though the pictures I took before the start don't reflect those numbers.

A local TV station (NEWS 14) was there doing interviews and shooting video. Sadly, none of the network affiliates showed up:



A small portion of the crowd gathered before the start. Notice the guy in the middle with the red Mt. Mitchell jersey (hard to read). Mt. Mitchell is in NC, the highest peak east of the Mississippi. There is an annual Mt. Mitchell climb, one of the toughest bike rides around. This guy apparently did it, got the jersey, and lived to tell about it.



More riders in this photo, but still just a small portion of the total number:



Glad I went. Hopefully it will raise awareness of the rights of bikers to use public roadways in the U.S. I have to say I've been favorably impressed with the courtesy and caution shown by drivers in Union County where I ride. That may have to do with two riders being killed in the county in the last year -- maybe folks are being a bit more careful.

Numbers Game

From the Wikipedia article on PLU (Price Look-Up) codes on (mainly) fruit in the grocery store (the irritating little plastic labels stuck to every piece with a number on it). Specifically, what I didn't know was that genetically modified foods have a specific code you can watch for.

Conventionally-grown fruit has a four-digit number (e.g., 1234)
Organically-grown fruit has a five-digit number beginning with "9" (e.g., 91234)
Genetically-modified fruit has a five-digit number beginning with "8" (e.g., 81234)

Finally: Digital Cameras that Make Phone Calls!

One of the reasons I have bought good digital cameras over the last couple of years and not bought a cell phone is because I've been waiting until phones provided photo ability that was worthwhile. Looks like it's finally happened. The current issue of Wired magazine lists four new cameras with five megapixels of digital photo ability.

Here are the four in order of Wired's ranking (best to worst):

1. Nokia N82 ($629) Carl Zeiss (wow!) lens; one touch posting of pix to Flickr via the web, onboard photo editing, etc. (8 of 10)
2. Sony Ericsson K850i ($500) (7 of 10)
3. Samsung G800 ($500) (6 of 10)
4. LG KE990 Viewty ($500) (5 of 10)

I'm not buying -- but this is an indication that phones have crossed the two-megapixel barrier that's been in place for a while. Good news.

The downside of this advancement is that it's going to make real-time blog posting all the more ubiquitous:

Snap/post: "Here's a picture of me pulling into the Target parking lot."
Snap/post: "Here are the socks I'm looking at."
Snap/post: "Here's the Target restroom."
Snap/post: "Here's the Target cashier who I'm paying for my socks."
Snap/post: "Here I am leaving Target's parking lot."
Self-portrait/post: "And that was my trip to Target!"

Just what we need. (Look who's talking.)

I'm a Sucker for This Stuff

I'm struggling under a work deadline but I can't help myself -- I'm going to stop and post the lyrics to Sugarland's "Stay" which won two awards last night at the Academy of Country Music Awards show: Song of the Year and Single Record of the Year.

"Stay" was written and sung by the duo's vocalist Jennifer Nettles accompanied by the other half of the duo, Kristian Bush, on acoustic guitar. It is rare for country music songs: long, unplugged (acoustic), and "no drums" as Nettles said when accepting the award. (Not only is she a great songwriter and vocalist, she's really funny -- as when she told her partner when they accepted their second award, "Thank your wife.") It is quintessential country: absolutely heart-wrenching. Nettles has a voice that kills suckers like me. And her performance on the song's video is amazing. Either she's a great actor or the song broke her heart as she was singing it.

I'm posting the lyrics because, even though I've heard it on the radio a number of times, I never listened to it all the way through and so never caught the reversal between the first "why don't you stay" chorus and the last. Almost identical words in both but with 180 degree reversal in meaning. That is great country songwriting, and it's why country music endures. It's got the perfect placement of a minor chord that touches the pain that everyone has felt who's ever been in a relationship that went south. Really amazing.

I'm spelling all this out because I know most of the people who read this aren't familiar with the song or the video. But I hope you'll read the lyrics, compare the two choruses, and then watch Nettles sing it on the video. Even if you're not a fan of country music, you can be a fan of great songwriting, arranging, and singing. (The embed feature on YouTube was disabled for this song so I can't post the video here -- but you can watch it by going to YouTube.)

Call me a sucker for tear-jerkers. I admit it -- I love songs like this. Note: I'm not championing the "story" of this song -- the relational mess that's portrayed. Just the power of simple words, melody, and voice, regardless of subject.

"Stay"
Jennifer Nettles

I've been sitting here staring at the clock on the wall
And I've been laying here praying, praying she won't call
It's just another call from home
And you'll get it and be gone
And I'll be crying

And I'll be begging you, baby
Beg you not to leave
But I'll be left here waiting
With my Heart on my sleeve
Oh, for the next time we'll be here
Seems like a million years
And I think I'm dying

What do I have to do to make you see
She can't love you like me?

Why don't you stay?
I'm down on my knees
I'm so tired of being lonely
Don't I give you what you need?
When she calls you to go
There is one thing you should know
We don't have to live this way
Baby, why don't you stay

You keep telling me, baby
There will come a time
When you will leave her arms
And forever be in mine
But I don't think that's the truth
And I don't like being used and I'm tired of waiting
It's too much pain to have to bear
To love a man you have to share

Why don't you stay?
I'm down on my knees
I'm so tired of being lonely
Don't I give you what you need?
When she calls you to go
There is one thing you should know
We don't have to live this way
Baby, why don't you stay

I can't take it any longer
But my will is getting stronger
And I think I know just what I have to do
I can't waste another minute
After all that I've put in it
I've given you my best
Why does she get the best of you?
So next time you find you wanna leave her bed for mine

Why don't you stay?
I'm up off my knees
I'm so tired of being lonely
You can't give me what I need
When she begs you not to go
There is one thing you should know
I don't have to live this way
Baby, why don't you stay.